Self-esteem issues affect all of us at various points in our lives, probably more than we realize, and it’s something we would do well to understand better.
Have you ever felt that you just needed something more – more time, more energy, more sleep, more rest, more peace? No matter what you do, say, or change in your routine, do you still feel like you need more?
Maybe you feel like Chuck Norris, or maybe you feel you are not worthy of life itself. Wherever you land on the scale of self-worth, it is directly tied to your view of self and your self-esteem.
According to Wikipedia, “Smith and Mackie (2007) defined it by saying…the positive or negative evaluations of self, as in how we feel about it.” So in other words, you can view yourself through a favorable lens or a lousy one.
In this article, I will share different self-esteem facts, self-esteem boosting activities, reasons why you are probably awesome, and I’ll help you view yourself that way (unless you already know you are awesome and in that case keep on keeping on, and be contagious!).
Low Self Esteem Facts
There are two types of self-esteem.
- Global self-esteem is how you view yourself overall.
- Specific self-esteem is how you view yourself in specific roles (i.e professional, parent, friend, etc).
Your general self-esteem influences your specific self-esteem and vice versa.
Self-esteem varies from day to day and minute by minute.
Exceedingly high self-esteem can be bad too!
Narcissists tend to have too much self-esteem, but can self-destruct by the littlest critique.
Physical attractiveness does not correlate with self-esteem.
Whether one has high or low self-esteem, they will be perceived depending on how they present themselves.
Positive feedback has a negative effect on people with low self-esteem, which is kinda ironic if you ask me.
Positive affirmations can actually hinder someone with low self-esteem, because they are constantly thinking, “I can’t even attract…” fill in the blank.
Quick fix self-esteem exercises, programs, and products don’t work!
When people participate in self-help programs/workshops on the psychological front, their memories play tricks on them. Participants’ memories of beginning levels of self-esteem are actually lower than what they originally started at, making it feel like there was an increase.
Having a higher self-esteem is like having a high functioning emotional immune system.
People with higher self-esteem tend to recover from stress, rejection, and failures better than their lower self-esteem counterparts.
Your overall self-esteem is managed and maintained by yourself.
Whether you have high or low self-esteem you are the one in control of its level.
No one can fix your low self-esteem but you!
Your self-esteem affects you on every level. So if you have low self-esteem let’s dive into different methods of addressing it!
Growing up in the church, I wanted to find a Bible passage that could help with low self-esteem.
1 Corinthians 25:10, “By the grace of God, I am what I am.”
What if I’m a hot mess? …thanks, God. I’m kidding, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
Can you see how my previous point self-destructs with a positive affirmation?
If you were to study the Buddhist religion, self-improvement techniques, including visualization and relaxation, would be on your list. Buddha was quoted as saying, “All that we are, is the result of what we have thought.”
I’m not going to sugarcoat my thought process on this one. I am seriously questioning my self-esteem at the moment. Writing an article on self-esteem makes me have to take a deep look at my own self-esteem. Just saying this makes me feel really inadequate because my life is NOT where I want it to be. But even in this moment when my thoughts are low, I know they will pass and I can focus on all the good in my life.
There must be hope… right?
I’ve gathered some of the internet’s finest self-esteem activities to guide you on this ever-evolving journey we call life…
Do something for someone.
Taking the time to do something kind for someone will immediately have an impact on you. It’s science. Conduct the experiment, gather the data, and share the results. You can thank me later!
Treat yourself, kindly.
We are the source of our self-esteem. Treat yourself kindly might mean, styling your hair a different way. Taking the time to dress your best. When you take the time to spend time on yourself, you will view yourself overall better. So go on, and treat yo self…
Break up the Routine.
Go to work a different way. Take an unplanned trip. Do something out of the ordinary. Spontaneity brings about excitement from the ordinary and can help raise self-esteem.
Make your awesomeness visual.
Vision and dream boards help keep your dreams on point. Write down your accomplishments and post them in the same way. This will keep your thoughts on the up and up!
Teach someone something.
Not only will you solidify your knowledge on the topic, but you’ll share your knowledge and improve someone’s life. Go you!
Do you ever take time to sit and think? Don’t get stuck on all the bad in life or all the things that you wish you could have done differently. Acknowledge those things and make a plan to visualize their departure in your life.
Get a hobby.
When we spend time doing things we enjoy, we will infect the other parts of our lives we passively endure.
Exercise has the fastest impact and biggest return on investment in boosting self-esteem. When we get our blood pumping it helps circulate our blood, which clears out our organs and increases hormone production, leaving us in a euphoric feeling. So try something new, join a gym, take that yoga class, con a friend into going on a walk with you. Whatever you do, just move it, move it.
Whether you’ve had a good day or a not so good day, understand that days will come and days will go, but you are forever. Either on this Earth or in the next stage of life, you are worth every ounce of you. Don’t tear yourself down and don’t throw stones at others.
Find your hope, find your tribe, and trust that this journey will take you where you desire.